Let’s be honest—wedding planning can feel like a full-time job, and unless you’re a professional event planner, chances are you weren’t exactly trained for this. Between Pinterest boards, family opinions, vendor calls, and that one friend who keeps asking about the dress code, it’s a lot. If you’re feeling like you’re one minor mishap away from a meltdown, take a deep breath. You are not alone.

At the heart of it all, this journey is about love. It’s about celebrating the start of your life with your person—not about whether the napkins perfectly match the bridesmaids’ dresses. When things start to feel overwhelming, try to shift your focus back to that. The rest is just extra.

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to let go of the idea that you have to do everything. You don’t. Whether it’s your partner, your best friend, or a professional planner—lean on your support system. Trust people with tasks, and allow yourself to step back a little. You don’t have to be the hero of every wedding decision.

It also helps to draw clear lines when it comes to input from others. Everyone will have an opinion, and while some advice is genuinely helpful, some of it… not so much. It’s okay to thank people for their thoughts and still choose what feels right for you. Setting boundaries isn’t rude—it’s necessary.

And don’t forget to take breaks. Seriously. You are allowed to take a day—or a week—off from wedding talk. Go on a date, watch a movie, do something that has nothing to do with tulle, cake flavors, or RSVP counts. Your relationship needs nurturing during this time too.

Staying organized is a lifesaver, but try to hold your plans loosely. Things will shift. Timelines change, vendors reschedule, someone will definitely mess up a detail. It’s all part of the story. If you can laugh through the chaos, you’ll not only survive it—you’ll actually enjoy it.

Most importantly, take care of yourself. Get sleep. Eat well. Move your body. Breathe. You’re still a human being in the middle of this big, emotional experience. The more grounded you feel, the more present you’ll be for the moments that matter.

At the end of the day, weddings are beautiful, messy, emotional celebrations of love. They’re never perfect—and that’s exactly what makes them unforgettable. So give yourself permission to not have it all together. You’re doing just fine.

You’ve got this.